A lesson in rest and peace from…bullfighting?
In her book Kitchen Table Wisdom, Rachel Naomi Remen talks about bullfighting, of all things.
You see, there is a place in the bullring where every bull feels safe. If the bull reaches this spot, he stops running and rests.
It might seem like the bull has given up or injured himself when he enters this place, but this is not the case at all.
Rather, this break from the action enables him to gather up his full strength again so he can continue fighting.
This safe place is called the “querencia.”
This spot is different for every bull. It is the job of the matador to figure out the location of the querenciais for the bull and then prevent the bull from entering this sanctuary.
This morning my 7 year old daughter reminded me how stories can be a “querencia.”
She said she was afraid last night and couldn’t fall asleep. So her 14 year old sister, who shares a room with her, told her stories about when she was little.
The 7 year old was so thrilled to hear stories about her big sister. Even more enthralling than if she had merely read a book to her, I’m sure.
What is your querencia?
What/who are your matadors?
As Dr. Remen says, the purpose of discovering and regularly entering your “querencia” isn’t to hide from the world, but to emerge again with strength and energy to achieve all your goals and set new ones and find the right opportunities to say yes to.
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