When I check my blog stats I see that a number of people find this website by searching “Kitchen Table Wisdom discussion questions” and “Kitchen Table Wisdom quotes.”

So I thought I should devote a post to that topic.

First, feel free to download my mind map of Kitchen Table Wisdom. It contains important quotes from each section of the book and helps give the big picture.

Next, glance through the posts I’ve written about the book. You might get some good ideas for discussion topics.

A book like this tends to generate much discussion on its own without having to ask questions. You could go through each section and discuss one or two of the stories that made the deepest impression on you. So it helps to write down a list of your favorite stories if you’re the leader of the discussion.

For me, the biggest takeaways from the book were the following (these might make for good discussion points):

* Approval is as damaging as criticism.

* Death is the great teacher and the great healer. Dying people have the power to heal the rest of us in unusual ways.

* We don’t always have to run to the experts. We are wounded healers of each other.  We won’t truly have universal health care until we realize that we are all providers for each other’s health and value what we have to offer each other as much as we value what the experts say.

* Wholeness rarely means we have to add something to ourselves. It’s about freeing ourselves from beliefs about who we are.

Here are 10 of my favorite quotes from the book:

“Prognosis may not be the reality anymore than the map is the territory or the blueprint.” p. 13

“Stress may be as much a question of a compromise of values as it is a matter of external time pressure and fear of failure.” p. 76

“We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are.”

“Wholeness is never lost, it is only forgotten. Integrity rarely means that we need to add something to ourselves. It is more an undoing than a doing, a freeing of ourselves from beliefs we have about who we are and ways we have been persuaded to “fix” ourselves to know who we genuinely are.” p. 108

“I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. And especially if it’s given from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but receive them. Just take them in. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us don’t value ourselves or our love enough to know this.”

“We are all wounded healers of each other. We have earned the wisdom to heal and the ability to care.”

“I do not think that we will be able to attain health for all until we realize that we are all providers of each other’s health, and value what we have to offer each other as much as what experts have to offer us.”

“Death is the great teacher and also the great healer. Death may be the final and most integrating of our life’s experiences.”

“Cleaning up one’s act may be far less important than consecrating one’s life.”

“Joy seems more closely related to aliveness than to happiness.” p. 172

Enjoy your book discussion! Feel free to post your favorite quotes in the comments.


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