If you’re an introvert, or live with one, check out The Introvert’s Corner blog on the Psychology Today site.

I especially like the recent post, How To Piss Off An Introvert. She lists things introverts hate to be told.

She also posts a video clip of the introverted 20-year-old actress Kristen Stewart’s appearance on Oprah, where Oprah makes too much of a big deal out of Stewart’s nervousness. Hint: saying “you look nervous” or “you’re so quiet” doesn’t make an introvert feel relaxed and more at ease. Would an extrovert like hearing, “you’re so loud” or “you look cocky?” Anyway, I find it refreshing that one of today’s stars is an introvert and doesn’t try to hide it.

I discussed this list with my daughter and she said the #1 thing she hates hearing the most as an introvert is “you’re no fun!” when she refuses to play a group game at a social event.

Which reminds me of how I HATED the games Pictionary and Charades in college. Heather Armstrong of Dooce.com describes this hatred well:

I think it goes back to being forced to participate in group activities when I was growing up in the Mormon Church and how the trauma of having to act like I was having a good time is such that when someone even mentions Pictionary my brain starts to liquify and drizzle out my nose. The quickest way to get me to sneak out of your party is to suggest we play charades, unless the rules are that you have to take a shot of tequila every time someone yells out, “SOUNDS LIKE?” Then I’ll be sleeping on your couch and stealing your Ibuprofen.

To go through the trauma of having to act like you’re having a good time only to be told “you’re no fun” would make any introvert reach for the tequila.


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