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A blog for introverts

If you’re an introvert, or live with one, check out The Introvert’s Corner blog on the Psychology Today site.

I especially like the recent post, How To Piss Off An Introvert. She lists things introverts hate to be told.

She also posts a video clip of the introverted 20-year-old actress Kristen Stewart’s appearance on Oprah, where Oprah makes too much of a big deal out of Stewart’s nervousness. Hint: saying “you look nervous” or “you’re so quiet” doesn’t make an introvert feel relaxed and more at ease. Would an extrovert like hearing, “you’re so loud” or “you look cocky?” Anyway, I find it refreshing that one of today’s stars is an introvert and doesn’t try to hide it.

I discussed this list with my daughter and she said the #1 thing she hates hearing the most as an introvert is “you’re no fun!” when she refuses to play a group game at a social event.

Which reminds me of how I HATED the games Pictionary and Charades in college. Heather Armstrong of Dooce.com describes this hatred well:

I think it goes back to being forced to participate in group activities when I was growing up in the Mormon Church and how the trauma of having to act like I was having a good time is such that when someone even mentions Pictionary my brain starts to liquify and drizzle out my nose. The quickest way to get me to sneak out of your party is to suggest we play charades, unless the rules are that you have to take a shot of tequila every time someone yells out, “SOUNDS LIKE?” Then I’ll be sleeping on your couch and stealing your Ibuprofen.

To go through the trauma of having to act like you’re having a good time only to be told “you’re no fun” would make any introvert reach for the tequila.


100th post

This is my 100th post on this blog, which I began in February. This reminds me of the main problem with blogs:

Over time there end up being 100s of posts on a blog and the best posts get buried under the new ones. This means new readers could miss out on the good stuff.

So I’ve decided to create a page called Best Posts. These are the posts that have received a lot of traffic, positive comments to me from friends and readers and also includes personal favorites of mine.

I’ll also list them below but first some housekeeping notes:

If you don’t already subscribe to this blog via email or RSS feed, please feel free to do so. Click here or just click one of the subscribe buttons on the sidebar. That way you won’t have to remember to visit the site. You’ll automatically get posts by email or in your feed reader.

I installed a Facebook Like button at the bottom of each post. They seem to be all the rage now. This way you can effortlessly share posts on Facebook if you ever feel so inclined. There’s also a regular share button that lets you send posts as an email or on Twitter, etc. Please share away – I don’t write these posts in order to hoard them for myself.

I’ve also installed a star rating and thumbs up rating at the bottom of posts. If you like a post (or don’t like one) you can anonymously give it a rating or a thumbs up or down if you’re too shy to leave a comment. I’ve used this on two other blogs for a couple of months and have benefited a lot from this feedback.

It has NOTHING AT ALL to do with ego, but with wanting to know what resonates with you. I’m not only concerned with what I want to write about…I want to know what you like too. Leaving comments always works too – I love getting your feedback.

OK, before this ends up being the most boring 100th post ever, here are my greatest hits posts:

Why Christians Suck at Storytelling

Nothing Brings Forth a Memory (Or Makes a Grandfather Cry) Like Music

Ferdinand the Bull: Champion of Introverts

Sam Sheepdog vs. Ralph Wolf

How to Overcome Zerissenheit (torn-to-pieces-hood)

Vicki the Biker’s Spring Break Survival Guide

The Case For Loneliness

How Listening is Like Prozac

You’re Always Telling a Story…Even at the Grocery Store

How To Harvest Your Failures And Stop Seeking Approval

Thanks for reading!


An ode to Mr. Clean Magic Erasers

Yesterday I went to the grocery store… not to buy food but to buy a box of Mr. Clean Magic Erasers.

Unfortunately the store only sells two packs and four packs, not an 8-Count Box like Amazon does. But that’s OK.

There’s something satisfying about opening a box of Magic Erasers, especially in early spring.

Seeing those shiny white erasers makes me excited about the cleaning possibilities.

No other product out there has this effect on me… they all make cleaning  feel like drudge work.

I guess it’s the way Magic Erasers effortlessly remove marks and grime from walls and every other surface. By erasing away all the crap, they make it possible for me to see and appreciate what I already have.

Plus Mr. Clean is a whole lot cheaper than hiring a cleaning service. :-)